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Asperger’s & Neurodiverse Couples Therapy

We provide coaching and therapy for couples around the country who struggle with Asperger’s Syndrome. Asperger’s is unique in the world of neurodiverse couples therapy and coaching. It is important to work with a coach or therapist experienced with neurological differences. Many couples struggle with providers who don’t understand the world of Asperger’s and especially the pain of a neurotypical or non-Asperger’s partner who has had years of ongoing trauma. With the right treatment and a motivated couple there is hope. Therapists and coaches at Silicon Valley Therapy have seen results and know how to navigate a challenging path which can, despite taking time, lead to a new way of being in relationship that is fulfilling for both partners.

What is ASD and Asperger’s Syndrome?

Asperger’s Syndrome (AS) is a high functioning form of autism or autism spectrum disorder (ASD). ASD is comprised of a group of neurodevelopmental disorders that are characterized by two categories of symptoms: repetitive behavior patterns and social impairment. Some symptoms of adults with ASD include

  • Difficulty making friends
  • Unusual or repetitive use of language
  • Abnormal intense focus on a topic of interest
  • Rigid adherence to routines or rituals
  • Difficulty initiating or sustaining a conversation
  • Impaired ability to be creative or imaginative

Despite these symptoms, people with AS are gifted in many ways. They tend to have a superior intellect and an amazing ability to focus which may lead to impressive accomplishments in life. People with AS have a different kind of brain. Yet it’s the “best kind of different” as Shonda Schilling writes about in her book with the same name. Please keep in mind that all ASD and AS individuals are unique and will have different levels of severity of symptoms or possibly none at all in some areas. Your SVT provider will assess the presenting behavioral symptoms and gear treatment towards your specific case.

Neurodiversity – Positives and Negatives

Neurodiveristy is when an Aspie and a neurotypical (NT) person enter into a relationship. When an Asperger adult (Aspie) makes his or her partner their object of obsession it is flattering. A neurotypical (NT) partner can be impressed with the Aspie’s intellect, stability, focus, and accomplishments. Aspie’s appreciate how their NT partner manages social situations and deals with conflict. It can seem like a match made in heaven. Problems with neurodiverse couples surface when the Aspie’s object of focus moves away from his or her partner. It is when this happens that the differences in each partner seem more problematic than complementary. Part of neurodiverse couples therapy with Silicon Valley Therapy is processing the emotional wounds that have accumulated over the years due to social disconnect. These wounds can be experienced as:

  • No reciprocity in communication
  • Avoidance of conflict
  • Stonewalling and shifting blame
  • Unwillingness to compromise and be flexible
  • Disregard for family chores and tasks
  • Feelings of frustration and loneliness
  • Lack of empathy and fundamental disparity in how each partner feels about emotions

Over time these painful relationship patterns can gradually destroy the relationship.

Healing Wounded Neurodiverse Relationships

With proper treatment or coaching and investment by both partners it is possible for neurodiverse couples to have a sustainable, rewarding, and fulfilling relationship that celebrates the good and manages the challenging aspects of their different personality characteristics. It is critical to work with a therapist or coach that understands Asperger’s. For example, it is a mistake to believe that AS adults cannot feel empathy. Silicon Valley Therapy providers have helped many neurodiverse couples get to an experience of empathy from both partners. Neurodiverse couples therapy takes work and practice, and depends on the Aspie’s symptomatic acuity but emotional progress is possible.

Hope and Change Through Coaching and Therapy

The perceived rigidity and self-focus of the AS partner can change – there is hope. The therapy work we do together will create hope right from the start. This happens through understanding, awareness, and accountability. The first step is to create an individualized treatment or coaching plan for your specific needs. Immediate crises are addressed up front along with a thorough assessment of your collective and individual histories. From there the work begins as we do cognitive and experiential exercises to create a new way of being in relationship together. The therapy and coaching work with Dr. Thomas is not limited to weekly or biweekly sessions. Homework is assigned to keep the progress moving forward outside of the session and this is done in a collaborative way so the speed of change is appropriate for each partner and couple.

Creating new ways of relating must go beyond the cognitive realm and into real behavior change. For this reason SVT providers utilize many behavioral exercises designed to increase intimacy. SVT providers deliver an objective, supportive, caring, and even curious presence in your relationship. He exemplifies the 8 qualities of the self, commonly called the 8 C’s of the self, that is stated within Internal Family Systems theory:

  • Calmness
  • Curiosity
  • Clarity
  • Compassion
  • Confidence
  • Creativity
  • Courage
  • Connectedness

Medications and Co-occurring Disorders

There are no medications for Asperger’s but there are medications for other symptoms that can be co-occurring to Asperger’s. Anxiety, depression, OCD, addiction, and psychosis are examples of co-occurring conditions that may warrant medication. If hyperactivity or impulsivity are present in an Asperger individual it may mean they need medication to treat an attention deficit disorder such as ADD or ADHD. Behavioral or substance use addictions (alcohol, drugs, porn, gambling, etc.) are also cases where additional treatment or coaching may be necessary. SVT providers are skilled in many of these areas and also works with a board certified psychiatrist to assist with assessment and prescriptions for medications.

Diagnoses and Assessments

How do you know you or your partner has Asperger’s Syndrome? As with many diagnoses, Asperger symptoms occur on a spectrum and each Aspie is different. While professional nuero-psychological testing is the most reliable for determining a diagnoses, it can be costly. Another option is to use online assessments to get a reasonable understanding of the presence of Asperger’s. The following two tests are free to take and don’t require any account registration. Dr. Thomas will look at your results to help you understand them as an initial step towards determining a diagnosis of Asperger’s:

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Therapeutic Supervised Visitation

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What is Therapeutic Supervised Visitation?

Therapeutic supervised visitation (TSV) is a type of visitation that takes place in either the home or at a neutral location. This form of intervention is used to address barriers, promote safety, permanency, and improve the well-being for children. This approach has been used for many years to help children and families who have experienced traumatic events, such as domestic violence and/or child abuse.

Who Therapeutic Supervised Visitation is for?

TSV is designed to help parents understand how their behavior affects their children and other family members. This method offers parents the opportunity to learn more about themselves, their children, ways to improve their communication skills and parenting practices. Therapeutic Supervised Visitation allows parents to spend time with their children in a safe and controlled environment.  

Therapeutic supervision can be done in one-on-one sessions or family sessions with both the parents and their children present. In these sessions, the therapist works with all parties involved to help them learn how to communicate better with each other and resolve their differences peacefully. This process takes time and patience, but it can be very beneficial in helping everyone involved to better understand what caused the issues in the first place and how to avoid them in the future.

Why Therapeutic Supervised Visitation is Important?

 Therapeutic supervision is especially helpful when there are concerns about:

  • A child's safety
  • An ongoing conflict between parents
  • A parent's inability to manage their own stress and emotions
  • A parent's mental health issues that could impact the child 

Direct observation of parenting practices is essential to improve family relationships. Specific issues that prevent bonding and attachment with children are typically addressed during supervised visitation as well. TSV enables a parent to visit their children in a safe and appropriate environment with supervision made by a qualified mental health professional.

The therapist may invite the parent to meet separately from their children to provide ideas for a successful visit or education on building their parent-child relationship. The utmost priority of Therapeutic Supervision Visitation is the safety and care of the children. This type of supervision is to ensure that the children feel comfortable and do not experience any distress during their visit.

A number of studies have shown that Therapeutic Supervised Visitation can be an effective tool for reducing conflict between parents and provide the child with a stable environment. TSV also brings an opportunity for parents to practice positive behaviors with their children.

By meeting with a professional regularly you will have the opportunity to talk about your progress and any issues that arise within your family unit. You will also benefit from guidance regarding how to best manage specific situations that may arise within your family.

How to Get Therapeutic Supervised Visitation

Therapeutic supervised visitation is commonly ordered through a legal process and there may be abuse or parental conflict involved in the process. Whenever there is an indication of trauma, abuse, or excessive conflict this type of visitation can be warranted and effective. Upon completion of Therapeutic Supervised Visitation, a report can be written with an assessment and next steps.

Here is a Self-Help Guide to Supervised Visitation from the Judicial Brand of California. 

If you are outside of the state of California we advice you look into state's government website for details on what is required for Supervised Visitation.  

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Silicon Valley Therapy offer Therapeutic Supervised Visitation with mental health professionals who are highly skilled in working with families and children. Therapeutic supervised visitation is not a replacement for family therapy, reunification therapy, or individual therapy. If you are uncertain about what services are best for you, contact us for a free consultation so we can help guide you to the best service to meet your needs.

Silicon Valley Therapy's offices are located in Palo Alto, Los Gatos, and Santa Cruz California. Telehealth psychotherapy and coaching is offered through secure video or audio services. Silicon Valley Therapy treats couples and relationship issues, anxiety, panic attacks, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, bi-polar, ADHD, Asperger's, sex difficulties, anger regulation issues, affair fallout, divorce recovery, self-esteem, addiction, co-dependency, trauma, abuse, gender identity, and managing grief and loss. If you search for counseling San Jose, marriage counselor San Jose, couples counselor San Jose, psychotherapy San Jose, psychotherapist San Jose, therapist San Jose, counselor San Jose, couples therapist San Jose, couples counselor San Jose, marriage therapy San Jose, life coach San Jose, career coach San Jose, executive coach San Jose, you can find Silicon Valley Therapy's web site. In addition to serving San Jose, Silicon Valley Therapy serves clients in Campbell, Los Gatos, Saratoga, Willow Glen, Milpitas, Mountain View, Monte Sereno, Cupertino, Scotts Valley, Felton, Sunnyvale, Morgan Hill, Fremont, Los Altos, and Gilroy, California. The recommendations on this website do not constitute professional advice, substitute for professional treatment, or establish a therapeutic or coaching relationship.